Posts Tagged ‘the Huffington Post’

A long, long blessed time ago, I was spending weekends playing dolls with my girls. And I liked combing the thick, curly hair of my little one. There is nothing especially unusual with that. Much less, I think, that a mum – late Adam Lanza’s– bringing his son to gun shows and planning to offer him one for Christmas.

Well, maybe I have it wrong,

Doyin Richards

Doyin Richards

Here is a nice guy, Doyin Richards. He has a blog, Daddy Doin’ Work, which is about him raising his girls. He is also on paternity leave, (paid paternity leave?), which, in this- not- so -socially- advanced country, is something that should make people rejoice. He posts a picture of him combing his girl, among others to show his wife he could handle the job.

His blog is flooded messages – from fathers-  calling him a sissy, a deadbeat dad, a kind of uncle Tom, a man who cannot handle a black woman. Some asked him if he rented the girls (?).  Enjoy.


Perhaps we deserve the condescending family justice system we have that only sees fathers as just good enough to pay child support.

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I am no lawyer, all right. But after watching for the second times divorce lawyer Yvette Harrell’s video on the Huffington Post from August 10, I am still bemused about the fairness of divorce laws in this country. Can anybody enlighten me?

What I grasp from Yvette Harrell’s interview is that we, would-be divorced fathers and divorced fathers, have an information problem. Once upon a time, divorce laws were biased against fathers. That’s not the case any more. We just need to assert our rights to be fathers. Did Yvette Harrell mean that all we needed was lawyers that walk us through divorce laws? Or am I second-guessing her?

While listening to Yvette Harrell, I could not help thinking of a bill that some representatives from the far -right wanted to pass in the French Parliament: having children of parents of foreign origin to officially state their willingness to be French when turning 18. Yet, these children were French, because they were born on French soil. Needless to say, children of French parents did not have to do the same.

We have the same premises plaguing divorce laws in the US, but Yvette Harrell doesn’t seem to see it. The right of divorced mothers to be mothers is protected by divorce laws, while fathers have to claim their right to be fathers to be acknowledged by the justice system. Isn’t this discrimination plain and simple?

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Sweet (Idaho)

Things are so bad with family justice that one has to underscore when the worst is avoided. In Jesus Ramirez’case and his three-year old daughter, Maria, one was heading towards a fiasco à la Bail Romero in Missouri: an immigrant parent being deprived for ever of his parental rights.

Close call. Without the Idaho Supreme Court overturning the ruling of the Idaho Department of Human and Health Services, Jesus Ramirez would never have seen his daughter. Ramirez is a Mexican undocumented worker, who married an American citizen in Idaho in 2007.  A year after, he is expelled and returned to Mexico, soon joined by his wife.  Maria is conceived in Mexico but born in Idaho, where Ramirez’ wife returns in 2008. As she is accused of child’s neglect, Maria is put in a foster home. Ramirez, who has tried to come back to the country to reunite with Maria, is accused of having abandoned her, not to have the financial needs to support her, and is given the thorny “best interest of the child stuff”: Maria will live in the beautiful country of ours.

In Ramirez’ case, the Idaho Supreme Court has asserted that undocumented parents also have parental rights. That may help parental rights in general.

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