Each year in March, I receive a grade report, at least of one of my girls. Both are now in
Hasta el viento tiene miedo (Carlos Enrique Taboada)
Brearley Upper School, but for some reason, I have never received two grade reports of this School, one for each of my daughter, the same year. I don’t ask why.
This year, in March 2012, along with my oldest one’s grades, was a generic letter signed Evelyn Sigal, Head of the Upper School, with the words:”If you have not already had the chance to discuss with your daughter her performance on her exams, I urge you to use this report as a catalyst for doing so.”
The Brearley School must either have a special sense of humor I don’t get or a very short memory. In 2009, the Brearley School barred me from attending parents-teachers conference, although I had a Family Court order granting me the right to the contrary. And as I was blogging about it, I received a cease or desist threat from the Brearley School councel. It was about refraining from comments -supposedly inflammatory- about the Brearley School on my blog.
I learned then the Brearley School had read my blog. Hence the Brearley School must have figured out I am incommunicado with my daughters, for almost seven years now. The Brearley School wants me “to use this report as a catalyst to discuss with my daughter on her exams?” I wished the Brearley School had not been another catalyst of my eviction from the lives of my girls. I could perhaps talk about their exams with them now.
Parental Alienation is real, and we must raise awareness. Anyone married to a high-conflict spouse must do everything they can to protect themselves and their kids prior to divorce/separation. Here is a video I put together to help others in similar situations:
I went through a very similar situation with my daughter’s school. For six years, I was the only parent that attended events, volunteered for field trips and projects, and went to parent teacher conferences. When my future ex (my divorce has drug on for 28 months now) went to the school and made false domestic violence claims, I was barred by the school. It did not matter that I had temporary custody of the child at the time. I was banned from school grounds. The school refused to acknowledge the order of custody and my wife’s unsubstantiated claims were used to show I could not properly provide for our daughter.
Two years on, I am still fighting for joint custody, even though by my wife’s own admission I have my daughter seven days a week and she only gets her when she has time. I pay voluntary child support for a child she never has in order to keep my daughter with me. I must do this because my wife attempted to collect welfare payments stating my daughter was the product of a rape and not mine. A family court magistrate gave her physical custody based on this lie.
The State of Ohio, refuses to allow the rape statement to be a part of our divorce decision because in their opinion doing so would move to stop those who really need assistance from seeking it if there is a danger of it being used in court against them, regardless if attempted fraud can be proven.
I have been the catalyst of every court action in our divorce and child’s welfare. That has been aknowledged by nearly every decision maker along this odyssey and yet none of them makes a move on what is best for the child, including the above magistrate that made me prove I was the biological father and that my wife was lying. It seems Ohio, is equally as backward as your children’s school in the cause of parental rights.