Yesterday I found his video posted as a comment on my blog.
Thanks Chris. That’s exactly what this blog is about. A voice for fathers who have lost their own.
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Thank you so much for posting my video.. that felt very nice and helps me stay positive. Thank you
Chris Belanger and Weston Belanger
My second video…
Hey everyone!! Video number 3!!
Hi Chris it’s Elli -Samara just wondering how u are I lost your email
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CZ5IMS1XkEk THIS IS A OLDER VIDEO TO SHOW HOW CLOSE WE WERE AND TO SHOW A LOVING CARING FATHER IS BEING KEPT AWAY FROM HIS SON.
I think before people start feeling sorry for this piece of crap father, they should consider that there is another side to this story and that there is a struggling single mother supporting a child with no help from his father at all. Also consider that this “poor father” is dangerous and has arrest warrants out for him.
Hi Harper,
I do not know anything about Chris’s past but whatever it is, he can communicate with his son on this blog as much as he wants.
Pierre
Hello Pierre, can you please delete this whole page? Harper’s comment even though its untrue has made me loose 2 jobs!!! I hope you understand. Chris
as you say,, “piece of crap father” “dangerous” watch this and get a grip please. Also, stop with the “struggling and single” in regards to her.. not accurate and not even allowing me to help!!
Hey before you slander me again, please think twice on your illegal and hurtfull comments. They are against Weston Belanger as well.
Dear Harper-
You unfortunately are one of many victims that do not understand completely what Parental Alienation is and it seems you have been sucked into the AP’s world. The victims are the children and the parent,family and friends that are stripped of thier ability to share thier love- You must be blinded if you cannot feel the love flowing from this father and son’s relationship since birth- you cannot fake what has been captured on film. You should educate yourself before you start spewing words out as an attack. I pray for people like you that get sucked into the lies.
Thank you!! And if its one thing I learned from the support groups and books and more, is the alienators grab family, certain friends, and nieghbors, tell them just enough so they get the supports and the words they need to sleep with their actions. The actions that any human being knows is very wrong and very unfair to the child. Thank you again..
“DS”
A top scholar could write a thesis on the hardships Parental Alienation places upon a child and the alienated parent. Within such the extremely bias decisions of our courts could also be discussed outlining the fact that the majority of such parents are fathers. It could be published and debated by every expert from here to Mars… But, be it that he has found success in life and forged a loving relationship with his once alienated children, or be it he is in jail for back child support and judged for being a “Dead Beat Dad” (fully denied all ability to prove otherwise) -only an alienated father could ever understand the true pain of such tragedy. Until your children are used as weapons and such actions justified by the corruption within the family court system “you” have NO right to judge or define the loving nature of any such father! I am such a father and you do not wear my shoes… You can attempt to judge me… Call me a sperm donor… Say I am a dead beat father… Take away my house and any dignity I might have left… But I am still my children’s father! For any man that cast such judgement, there is only one fact you can be sure of- should you ever find yourself trying to fill such shoes I will never hold you accountable for the prior ignorance your mouth once spewed as I fully understand the bleeding heart of an alienated father and you could call on me for support tomorrow even though you mock me today.
So well said by a friend,, alienators and the people that support it are clueless to the damage being done… Chris Belanger
Before you slander me again.. there are a few people in her circle being documented now for slander against me.. here it is, for missing court! and she didnt have to do that to me, she could have gave me a chance to get back up on my feet! but no….
http://warrantinquiryweb.co.mecklenburg.nc.us/WarrantSummary.aspx?PersonNumber=01532817
I am a good person and a loving father that will not give up on my son and us being together. People supporting this alienation like you should be ashamed of themselves.. its a crime against children.
LOL,, very classy Harper!! I am a very good person and many are standing behind that. You seem like a classy person though. Arrest warrents?? I have talked to the sheriff many times,, civil misdemenour for missing court when I lost everything and was out of the country!! Wow, you are way off and in Kristens little circle. Everything is being outlined in a big story and I will make sure you get a copy when this parental alienation is exposed. Nice try though! Even the emails of me trying to pay child support and getting no emails back, and the slander and the lies by her in court and a lot more. Nice try though and classy. And lets not forget all the taped conversations and her father saying “pay a lump sum and you can see Weston” on tape.. classy like you Harper.
And this document and slander you just committed is printed out and being sent in.. thanks for that.. oh and single mother struggleing.. take a look at her bank accounts and movement of funds in the last 5 years.. oh, and single, she had one serious guy in poor Weston’s life and now another one,, so single is another term very mis-used by you.. nice job,, and Pierre that is very false and slander against me on a very nice website..
Thank you Pierre,, your comment meant alot and there are 100’s of people that have spent time with me in the last 3 years and will be apart of the website being constructed and story being written. People that truely know me and spent time with me.
Same story of men being kept from there children by false statements . This is very powerful, I sent it to my son as soon as I listened to it.. If you believe the records , there was an attempt to make me out to be a crimmnal also . It was very had not to slip into a violent action .and they did try to intimadate me with police and CPS and the courts but loveing my son more than I loved the hate and revenge. I did regain my stress induced insanity, and will develop my and my sons relationship again, despite attempts to alienate us completely . The statement I always remember hearing was stike while the iron is hot . meaning for them.. Was get him in a position of weakness and go on the attack. One day I was the best father there is. The next I was the worst there is. My son knows I care and love him very much . but the damage has been done and for what They are Psychic Vampires feeding on mine and his emotions . Chris keep up the great work . We are fathers and this torment will pass I hope soon. There will be a day when we as Fathers will get our rights back to be just DADS in our childrens lives ..To my son,urry up grow up and become a dad too so you may understand your father better ..
Thanks for sharing!! you stay strong and hopefully both our sons know that we love them and we want to be with them!! that is being stolen from us,, even worse, it is being stolen from our sons…
Chris you have inspired me to do a video too. Thank you so much for sharing. I too have not been allowed to see my two son’s in 13 months and I know just how much it cripples you inside. I pray that your son will reach out to you just like you are doing to him and I pray that you never give up faith. God bless you and yours.
I feel your pain!!! I am proud of you when I see you say the words…you will never give up! I wont either, “Belangers never give up” I taught my son that.
Let me know when your video is done!!
Chris: I watched your video today … you were so incredibly strong, yet vulnerable, as we all are who are fighting this fomidable foe called PA. I have been in the battle since a divorce that took place when my daughter was 12 (tho didn’t have a clue as to what was really happening to take her away in such a devastating way.) My precious girl will be 25 in June and I am still hopeful that one day soon she will finally realize that all the untruths and secrets that have kept us apart were unfounded and we can once again be free to love each other as a mother and daughter should be allowed to with reckless abandon.
Just wanted to say that I am proud of you for your courage and strength, and I pray that you and your son Weston will be reunited very very soon. One thing I came away with from your video, Belangers never give up. Well, I am remarried to a wonderful man, but I can say that I am a mom who will never give up – so guess that means we have something more than PA in common.
I got a bit emotional reading that… thank you for the warm words and I am happy you have found happiness.
Never give up
It’s really a crying shame how AP’s can brainwash innocent children. It’s actually hilarious how they can suck ignorant adults, who can’t think for themselves, into the lies and deceit. Chris I experienced the same thing. In my case it was a person who was telling me what a good father I was, my AP was sucking me into situations to make look like an ass, and she even said my AP reminded her of her own husband’s ex-wife. Ironically, over one week’s short time she fell into my AP’s web and did a complete about face. She was even at a court hearing, and heard a referee scold my AP for her actions. Very weak-minded people. I finally remebered that she was not part of my children’s family and completely shut this POS out, as you should do. It’s very relieving to do so. Good Luck, man!
Yes they brainwash them slowly.. and they lie to themselves and pretend they are not doing it!! They are not encouraging the children firmly and that in itself is brainwashing but it allows the alienators to sleep at night!!
Thanks for the message and luck,, I can use it!!
A tribute for Weston and me… “The Dance”
JUST ONE OF MANY SAD EXAMPLES OF HOW CHILDREN FEEL LATER IN LIFE FROM THE AFFECTS OF PA! THE ALIENATORS DONT SEE THIS UNTIL ITS TO LATE, JUST LIKE IN MY SITUATION, HER AND HER PARENTS AND THE REST OF THE CLOSE MINDED PEOPLE DONT SEE IT!!
A letter to my dad:
I know what happened to me now while I was growing up. It’s called Parental Alienation. And it’s a form of child abuse. I’m so sorry for what my mom did to us both, Dad. And for what your wife felt like having to witness the whole thing while I was growing up. Despite all the negative things my mom told me about you, all I ever wanted growing up was this tall, dark, faceless man who called himself my daddy to come into my life and take me away. I dreamed of this almost EVERY DAY as a child. I was never much more than some sort of paycheck to her. I’m lucky that, even though she raised me, I got more of my dad in me than my mother. I have my dad’s adventurous spirit, his sense of humor and this enormous heart that I tend to carry on my sleeve. Used to think the reason my mom treated me the way she did (coldly) was because I reminded her of my dad and she hated that so she took it out on me by keeping me at a distance (arm’s length, if you will), never having “The Talk” with me, never asking more about my life than “What did you have for lunch today?”, telling me to quit hanging on her when I just wanted to give her hugs all the time. My love for her seemed to be rejected. I tried, God how I tried to figure out what it was she wanted from me to make her love me like the other kids’ mom’s loved them. But she was unaware that she was ruining my relationship with her. I was never taught to keep in touch with loved ones who weren’t directly near me…no phone calls, no letters, none of that. So now that I am living far away, I find it no trouble at all not to contact her or keep in touch. It doesn’t bother me. I love her, but I don’t feel the compelling need most daughters do to “keep in touch” as it were. I just wasn’t taught that as a child. Also, I find it terribly uncomfortable to talk about anything personal with her, which seems to go against every mother/child relationship. I’m so glad I’m not my mother’s daughter. But now, I just don’t feel like I’m anyone’s daughter. This makes me angry and hurt and crushes my spirit all at the same time. I’ve joined PAAS, an organization against Parental Alienation Syndrome, in order to help stop this from happening not only to other children, but to my husband’s only son. Now that this form of child abuse has a name and a definition, I dunno, maybe it can be pointed out. But not without educating people about it. I’ve now experienced it from both sides. As the child caught in the middle and as a step-parent, helpless and hurting, wanting nothing more than to help my husband’s fight to keep in contact with his son. I wanted to tell you, I don’t know any details about what life was like when I was a baby or before that. That may be my fault. But I DO know (now), what happened to me and why I’ve become how I am today. I feel like some sort of dejected monster with no real family, except the one I’ve started on my own (which is currently torn away from me, but that seems to be the recurring theme in my life, doesn’t it?). What was done to us was WRONG dad. And I’m sorry. I don’t know how to fix it. But I love you. Even before I met you, I loved you and I wanted you in my life. I don’t know how to be closer to you now that I’m grown. I’m sorry for that. But I love you.
http://youtu.be/DBRlUOpz4dA Video number 5. I am happy to hear many alienated parents are now reaching out through this idea. Its nice to work together and help eachother. Chris Belanger
Hello everyone!! Its great to see all the alienated parents helping eachother. So my videos have inspired many to reach out to their children and thats great!!!!! Here is my latest attempt idea, I put a add in Weston’s local newspaper!! Feedback has been great from parents already. Just always try your best folks, dont let the alienators keep you down, they do not want to be exposed or challenged. Always remember that you have the right to be a parent and fight for those rights!! I love Weston more then anything and I will never give up!!!
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Children deserve the Love and Support of BOTH parents
Minnesota Judge Has 200 Blunt Words for Divorcing Parents
“Your children have come into this world because of the two of you. Perhaps you two made lousy choices as to whom you decided to be the other parent. If so, that is your problem and your fault.
No matter what you think of the other party – or what your family thinks of the other party – these children are one-half of each of you. Remember that, because every time you tell your child what an “idiot” his father is, or what a “fool” his mother is, or how bad the absent parent is, or what terrible things that person has done, you are telling the child half of him is bad.
That is an unforgivable thing to do to a child. That is not love. That is possession. If you do that to your children, you will destroy them as surely as if you had cut them into pieces, because that is what you are doing to their emotions.
I sincerely hope that you do not do that to your children. Think more about your children and less about yourselves, and make yours a selfless kind of love, not foolish or selfish, or your children will suffer.”
So true! Spread this message to any parent you know, that you are dealing with, who is using your children to get revenge or who are causing you, your family and children pain. Let this also be a wise message to families that are still together as well. Nothing positive ever comes from being horrible and by thinking only of yourself. Children come first and a close second should be that of a positive relationship with whoever helped you create them 🙂
Dear Harper,
“Single mother struggling” – heard that a million times. If she is struggling “so” much then wouldn’t she get 3 jobs like I had once, or wouldn’t she get all the help she needs from friends such as yourself or family?. “Struggling” mother……then let the father be there for their child? Makes sense, yeah? Is this mother lacking the support, love, and hope like Chris has behind him because he is “clearly” a wonderful father. Take 5mins to read the below article and maybe instead of looking to “one” side of the story like you have accused many of Chris’s supporters and followers of doing and maybe realise that your so called friend the mother of Weston might just be angry, and unresolved in not being with Chris anymore, also sound like she is clearly bitter and unhappy. At the end of the day even though both of them did not work as a couple in a relationship does not give anyone the right to say that either of them are not entitled to keep loving, seeing and supporting their child. If you look at the video’s the links, the photos there is no way this is father that harms or puts his child in harms way and BTW even if a parent does have a few things that have gone against them in the past does not mean they cant change or that they still continue these things around their child. No one is perfect but clearly Chris’s ex is entitled to play god and decide that their beautiful child (who clearly looks healthy, loved and very much in love with his dad) is not allowed to see his father and that’s sad. What’s more sad is your need to bad mouth Weston’s father on a blog/site that is there to enstill Chris’s love for that of Weston. One class act right there. If anyone was a friend of Chris’s ex then they would turn to her and help her to either find resolve so that her son can be happy and possibly they might even take her to seek advice and help on how to heal and allow a relationship to blossom and continue between her son and his dad. Don’t be a hater and remember Weston will read this one day and there you are bagging out his dad. NOT ON. If a mother is struggling then allow people to help, which also means allowing the parent that helped her create her beautiful child, in being able to be there always to comfort him, love him and be there when ever he needs him. Take your negative comments and come back when you have something nice, productive and pro-active to say about two parents who didnt work out in a relationship but that are doing what is right for their child…..raising them together while living apart.
Chris you have 1000’s of supporters and Weston is one very lucky little boy. Some might even say that you have a relationship stronger than that of dads that get to see their children every day! Continue on as you are we are all behind you!
Harper: “Your children have come into this world because of the two of you. Perhaps you two made lousy choices as to whom you decided to be the other parent. If so, that is your problem and your fault.
No matter what you think of the other party – or what your family thinks of the other party – these children are one-half of each of you. Remember that, because every time you tell your child what an “idiot” his father is, or what a “fool” his mother is, or how bad the absent parent is, or what terrible things that person has done, you are telling the child half of him is bad.
That is an unforgivable thing to do to a child. That is not love. That is possession. If you do that to your children, you will destroy them as surely as if you had cut them into pieces, because that is what you are doing to their emotions.
I sincerely hope that you do not do that to your children. Think more about your children and less about yourselves, and make yours a selfless kind of love, not foolish or selfish, or your children will suffer.”
So true! Spread this message to any parent you know, that you are dealing with, who is using your children to get revenge or who are causing you, your family and children pain. Let this also be a wise message to families that are still together as well. Nothing positive ever comes from being horrible and by thinking only of yourself. Children come first and a close second should be that of a positive relationship with whoever helped you create them
Ps. Harper – your okay with a child growing up with out their father? A father in whom the child loves? A father who is so dangerous and “crappy” that he dedicates most hours of his day to trying to see his son, communicate with him, a father that is so horrible that in all photos his son looks sad and unhappy “NOT”. A father so loving he takes the time to create memories and moments for his son to watch and look back on during times they have been apart?
I feel very sorry for this world that are filled with people who are influenced by their loyalty to a friend. You are no friend if you allow and support such negative feelings from the mother of this child toward the father and if this mother did really love her child she would look into her heart and realise that she too is not perfect and that many people struggle in life, so why would you want your child too? There is no “I” in this situation, it’s a loose, loose for all (mother, father and chikd) if behavour like this continues and I’d like to think that maybe the mother could step up and get past her personal issues and views toward the father and grow a heart which has been clearly lacking, allowing at least one person a bit of happiness….her child!
Hello HolJuz, not much I can say on all the kind things you wrote with exception of thankyou! Many of the things you state I see on shows like Dr Phil and so on. You seem very warm and educated, thank you for simply stating the facts. I will not give up on being with my son, its just sad that all this time was stolen from Weston and I and we can never get that back. Her and her parents will never understand that and thats really sad. The only way they could grasp what they have done to Weston and I is if it happenned to them.
Thank you again,,
Chris and Weston
Chris, our prayers are with you. Parental Alientation is only too real and not fully understood. We have a severe case in Italy of four American children abducted by their mother after she lost custody. She had been working on alienating the children from him during the divorce, which lasts years in Italy. She did not get away with fooling the police and the courts with her false accusations nor was she able to keep the three youngest children from being happy living with their father and his new fiancé. The eldest, unfortunately, she did get to.
Once the decree was issued giving the father sole custody and she was down to 6 days a months, unsupervised visits, she kidnapped them and illegally took them out of Italy to St. Petersburg, Russia. Where they have been in and out of schools, abandoned to Russian institutions/orphanages when she could not care for them, and moved many many times. She continues her campaign to try to file false accusation against the father, in Russia this time, but since he is not near the children, luckily the Russian police had refused her requests.
The family has started a petition to Secretary of State Hillary Clinton to intervene:
http://www.thepetitionsite.com/takeaction/848/883/039/
We hope and prayer that these children will be safe and brought home soon.
http://bringflorentinekidshome.wordpress.com/
Thank you for your prayers!! I will use them..
Hi Chris just wondering how you are
And a big hello from Australia