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David and Goliath

David and Goliath

By the end of 2008, fed-up with not being able to make ends meet with the drag of 31% of my gross income withdrawn from  each paycheck, I filed a motion to decrease child support and have my ex-wife use my health insurance for the dental and vision expenses of my girls. I was last in court in January 23, 2009.

Until today, I have not heard about Support Magistrate Grey’s decision. That’s very strange. Support Magistrate Grey is a fast shooter at non-custodial fathers. Usually, every time sicko ex-wife thas taken me to court -at least twice a year- for unreimbursed medical expenses, I have gotten a money judgment order within two weeks. Today, I learnt by a clerk of the court that Grey is on leave and that her decision is “reserved.” “Facts” of  my case are being faxed to her.

What are these intricate facts? On one side, sicko ex-wife, Goliath: $4,660 and change in net monthly salary from Princeton University; $6,800 of alleged monthly rental income  for a 2,200 square-feet loft, paid in full,  in Soho  (New York City). Total alleged (sicko ex-wife had not brought her  last tax return to court, but why bother, since Grey does not) net monthly income: $11, 500. To which is added every month $1,000 in child support, coming from me. Grand total net income: $12, 500 net a month. On January 23, sicko ex-wife wined about the heavy property tax in New York City  and the high maintenance on her loft.  I guess this is what the $1,000 in child support covers.

On the other side, myself. Net monthly income with $1,000 in child support payments deducted: $2,100. With Grey’s absurd money judgment for unreimbursed medical expenses, I am left with $1,600 and change a month, and my ex-wife with now $12,900. Any second grader would immediately grasp the difference in net monthly income by a factor of 6, and make the inevitable conclusions: something is wrong with transferring such resources from the relatively poor to the relatively rich. Even in New York City, there are many, many single parents who raise two kids with less than $11,500 net a month. 

It clearly takes more time than a second grader for  Support Magistrate Grey to get the “facts.” It must have to do with bias against men and a ill-conceived sense of the Support Magistrate mission: be Robin Hood squeezing the last penny from irresponsible deadbeat dads. Support magistrate Grey is no Robin Hood. She is the Sheriff of Nottingham.

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