No Trespassing (Andrea Koch)
Alienating parents want their kids to be happy, as long as they are the sole author of their kid’s happiness. Their kids ought not to be happy if they are not part of it. If the relationship of the alienating parent with the former spouse has stopped, that of their children with their father has to stop too. Alienating parents are not emotionally sophisticated: their motto is “me or nothing” and their behavior is barbaric burning of land: any link of the children with the bastard has to be eradicated; any involvement of the bastard into the life of their children just cannot continue.
Alienating parents are bad news enough; alienation doesn’t need to be encouraged by institutions such as schools, which are expected to be more sophisticated. It is not the case of the Brearley School, where my girls happen to be students.
After a rather bumpy start of my relationship with the school, I succeeded to have school reports of my girls sent to me. I guess that I should have considered myself a lucky non-custodial fathers, as many do not even have access to school records. However, I wanted to talk to my girls’ teachers, attend parent-teacher conferences and extra-curricular event school performances, where my girls would be involved.
By the end of 2008, I phoned Tasha Elsbach, the Director of the Brearley Middle School. I am no Ruppert Murdoch,who also send his girls to the Brearley School (Vanity Fair, December 2008): I get a phone appointment for January 7 2009. The conversation is cordial. I learned that Camille and Chloé are doing well. Talking over the phone with some teachers? Sure, they will call me. Attending the February parent-teacher conference? Tasha Elsbach tells me that there is an order of protection against me. I told her that the order of protection has been lifted by the judge. My generous ex-wife had largely publicized the phony child abuse trial, not its end, which refutes her accusation. I told Tasha Elsbach that I will send her the final ruling and a Judge Sturm’s court order that I can attend parent-teacher conference, my ex-wife’s agreement not requested. I further insisted on my desire to talk to the teachers, not my ex-wife, in a parent-teacher conference.
Since then, nothing. I guess Brearley’s direction must have heard my ex-wife’s arguing about her being the sole custodial parent and against my right to be informed about my girls’ education. Confronting alienation takes courage, which I guess is not common currency in Brearley school.
I have a painting of my own that recently sold, that I wanted to share with you, and hope you will read the description and meaning of the painting.
I came across your blog today and from the first post I know my husband can relate and look forward to sharing it with him and many other friends and associates.
I am so grateful you have this blog for fathers out there everywhere. I work with a lot of fathers who go through your pain, and I just wanted to let you know you are sorrounded by others who suffer as you do as well as all the affected relatives but most importantly the children’s emotional and physical well being, and the life altering psychological affects that hinder their growth and their spirit.
Copy and paste this link to see this painting.
http://www.divinefusions.com/art_sophisticatedalienation90.html
Karen,
Thanks for your comment and the photo of your painting.
Pierre
The Brearley School Keeps Taking Side with Alienating Parent: I was SHOCKED to read this as my ex did the same exact thing! She went around telling the world about a court order which was not even a restraint, it was a NO contact order between me and my ex. The judge DID order my visitation and rights enforced. Of which she went around telling everyone the latter. Even after contacting the school and providing proof that this was bs, they REFUSED to send me my daughters emergency card or which I was omitted illegally. But the principle was kind enough to place it in writing. ” Your ex wife has told us there is a restraining order in place ” so I have that as a matter of record. ALL these idiot break the law and place it in writing. My ex actually tried that crap with me, telling me I was in contempt of court for violating her FAKE order which the JUDGE herself sent me a letter telling me to keep this that the order was vacated for no merit. But still she goes around telling everyone there is an order, and of course everyone believes her. My ex wife has kept my daughter from me for over 2 years illegally. I have THREE judges that order this b to NOT interfere with my visitation and she does it at will and is also STUPID enough to place her contempt in writing. Of which she is going to PRISON as soon as I can get to court. :)
I wanted to ask a question? Does a custodial parent have the power to (A) grant a credit of child support by writing a letter to the unit? (B) tell them I do not want his drivers license taken? (C) and if I have ONE kid for over two years (which she gave to me) and she KEEPS permitting the child support to go up even though she is NOT entitled to it, is this not fraud? I can’t get to court right now dealing with a sick woman (breast cancer) for years now, but SHE could go to court or write a letter to these f! right? I just PRAY a judge will give me this credit, its UNJUST ENRICHMENT for her to collect support when I am in custody of one child, full custody. She has never been away from the house, her mother abused her for 10 years and blames everyone else. So the kid doesn’t want anything to do with her. I have NOTHING to do with that. So in turn she keeps my youngest daughter away from me, not only away but has literally handed her to another man so he can play daddy with my kid! she posts pictures of them together on her facebook page SO I CAN SEE IT!
ANYONE wishing to shed some light or give me some advise you can email me t.r.kiellman@gmail.com thank you, and God bless the alienated and RAPED father. †
Appended from last comment. An email I sent my daughters principle.
Mr. Delio,
First: The email address which I used to email the (parental Portal) since it was one I used primary for that and emailing your superintendent (who HIDES like a thief in the night) avoids answering machine messages, etc, was compromised. I can’t access it. So I am unable to comply with your ILLEGAL request. If you doubt my veracity then that is on you. It is the SAME as my REPETITIVE
requests for my daughters health reports (fitness) I know I need a court order for that too. I went to court this week and saw the judge Supreme Court Justice Jeffrey Sunshine and I showed him everything your school has been doing to me, BULLYING me. Do you know what ” contempt of court is sir “? well you and your entire school are in it. Never mind federal law you break. (FERPA) (20 U.S.C. § 1232g; 34 CFR Part 99) your school is in direct violation of this FEDERAL law, never mind my own divorce agreement (which is so nice that the lawyer for my ex wife actually stipulated, that ANY party breaches this agreement, the aggrieved can SUE them. Make no mistakes Mr. Delio, you, your superintendent, teachers, school psychologists, WILL be receiving these FEDERAL law suits very very soon. I would consult with your attorneys and TELL them what you have done. I would also ask them about (Pre-judgment leins) they will know what I am talking about. My ex wife? she is going to PRISON for what she has done, and EVERY single person who has aided and abetted my ex wife in her crimes will go to jail as well. ” Contempt of Court ” is a CRIMINAL offense.
You and your school would not permit me to see my daughters emergency card, ” when the judge heard that? I could hear him talking to his (staff) ” what kind of bs is this “? I did inform the judge I did not wish to file any petitions ” for contempt ” at this time. I want my SHARK lawyers to handle this and I am not ready for that yet. When this is over and ALL of you are squeegeeing car windows on the highway, as someone gives you 1.00 my judgment sharks will be there to take their 90! You didn’t give me the emergency card because it was EVIDENCE of my ex wife’s contempt of THREE judges orders to not interfere with my visitation and legal rights. Because your ALL protecting her. Great, protect her, but you ANSWER for it to the law and society. Society will want to talk with you as well. How you protected, aided and abetted a KNOWN child abuser, child neglecter, child endangerer, sexual deviant who has full blown orgies in the presence of minors. Drives drunk with children, permits her
drug addict, drug dealing, Alcoholic, child abuser, ” who beats children with a turkey baster ” his neice ” drives drunk with my daughter in his truck, you will explain to THEM, and you will explain it to your bosses and that weasel superintendent, Steven Berrone. God how are you going to explain it to him? Here is trying to fix SC and you and yours have launched him into a MULTI million dollar law suit over school records. I would imagine he will terminate you all. Especially since it will be in the MEDIA!
I know what you have been MF to believe about me, and that makes you so weak mentally to be manipulated and conned by a person like that. Your school psychologists weak minded, cps agents, GOD I would love to be FLY on the wall when Berrone’s office receives these suits as well. LOL All over stupid records. I have annexed a nice recording for you, its my ex wife calling me up telling me I need her permission to get records? That your school called her to get her permission. This is a DIRECT breach of ARTICLE V. I DON’T need my ex wife’s permission for anything! I have the ONLY permission I need and it has already been signed by a judge its called ARTICLE V!
I have spoken to several neighbors that their children go to slocum ( it is these neighbors that tell me about my ex wife ) or how could I even know? I am 70 miles away from her. But you could care less about that fact. They ALL confirm that these passes and logons WHERE GIVEN! they didn’t have to jump through hoops, they didn’t have to beg, plead, they were given. Now I am ORDERING you under federal and state law, under my own parental rights agreement to PROVIDE me with the logons and pass codes to my daughters records. Or you sir will find yourself in CONTEMPT.
You all think I am this loser, low life, bum, but soon you will KNOW the truth and you DON’T dare attempt to apologize to me. Don’t dare.
I never did anything to my daughter we had a great relationship she abandoned me no reason, she chooses this low life dreg of society over her father, I am an INNOCENT in all this. INNOCENT.
The annexed hereto is a voice message left for me by my ex wife. You will hear her threaten to make trouble ( where none exists ) at Shaina’s school. EVIDENCE she is a sociopath who has done nothing but TERRORIZE this kid since she was 1! My daughter writes rap songs about the abuse and torture she suffered at her mothers hands do you know that?
BTW: if you believe my daughter left her mother, her RICH grandmother, her country club school, princess life style, her beautiful friends, to come live here with me, her broke, unemployed, has absolutely nothing, opinionated, watchful, properly strict, father, never mind to go to a school which is RATED the WORST and TOUGHEST school in the US, the NASTIEST lunch ever, then you sir are a MORON, and anyone else that believes that is a MORON.
SEE you soon in Manhattan Federal Court. :)
Terrence R. Kiellman (ILLEGALLY ALIENATED Father)
PS:BY all means PLEASE direct this email to your SUPERINTENDENT let him know his HOUSE, HIS CARS, HIS FREAKING DVD PLAYER, VERY SOON WILL BE MINE! as will yours.
Here is a letter I recently wrote to the NYS CSU:
To The NYS Kings County SCU.
Emailed to: dcse.cseweb@dfa.state.ny.us
Re: Case No.
First: I know what I will ASSERT here in this letter will mean nothing to this unit, the state, the court, no one. I have not paid child support in awhile and that AUTOMATICALLY makes me the bad guy, I get it. But what I am about to say is SINCERE and the TRUTH.
There is 112.50 in my child support order, my children have not had a baby sitter since 2008. So 112.50 for 6 years should be VACATED = $8064.00
I am in custody of my eldest daughter since Jan 18th 2012 (see annexed letter from school) therefore under the law my child support payments STOPPED on this date. I have one, she has one. Child support is over. So let’s tally that up shall we? Its been exactly two years 4 months since my daughter came to live with me, so $315.00 a week! X one year would be 15,144.00 x two = $30.288.00 + 8064.00 totals $38,352.00 that is just doing it expeditiously. Just the FACT I do have ONE child LIVING with me 24-7 should immediately STOP any further calculations of child support by law. Whether I see a judge or not. NO court would be permitted to allow this money to be assessed to me when I have custody of ONE child, not to mention the most expensive child she is a teenager. They eat more, wear fancier clothing, etc. Just saying. So technically from your figure 100,198.70 would be 61,846.70. It is UNJUST ENRICHMENT to keep assessing this money to my ex when I have ONE child which I support by the grace of God.
I know the above means nothing to any of you, you could care less. But I am NOT a dead beat father I have BEEN a FOREVER presence in my children’s lives since they were born 14 years ago. I have paid my support when I could, when I didn’t have a CFO garnishing my check by receipt of your letters, I PAID the money on my own, no gun to my head, no force, because as a CHIEF OPERATIONS OFFICER in my last job I was IN charge. I got your letters of garnishment and I could have simply ignored them and not pay anything. But I DIDN’T because I DON’T break the law. The law says I have to pay this money? I pay it. Even though, every cent goes to drugs, alcohol, partying, and NEVER to my children. But this you do not care about either.
In 2008 during the GREAT RECESSION I lost my career, to no fault of my own along with MILLIONS of other people. 5 years later I CAN’T find a job for my life! I am a 48 year old executive (damn good one) and I am unemployable by Corporate America. Discriminated for my age, my career, salary, experience, etc.
I am on EBT for me and my daughter, (oops will you garnish that?) whatever, Medicaid, I have NOTHING but my faith literally.
I owe back child support that is NOT a day that goes by I do not think about it. I WILL pay one day. But it won’t be this amount you say I owe, because I DON’T owe it. I owe the figure as stipulated herein. I don’t have to time to go to court I have a very sick woman on my hands “ breast cancer “ I have to take care of the children, take them to school, pick them up from school. I can’t even to go to court to cite my ex wife for (contempt of court) my eldest daughter ran away from her, couldn’t take the drugs, the abuse, the alcohol, the dregs of society being surrounded by them so she left. Her mother was the ONE who DISCHARGED her from school in Suffolk County, and I have been in custody of her since herein date.
I am law abiding citizen, its not even in me to break the law. Yeah I would say to myself back in the day “ why should I pay this “? It only goes to drugs anyway? But I DID because it’s the law. I respect the law more than I respect myself.
Ok, so you guys took my drivers license, I didn’t have it anyway. I can’t afford to pay some stupid fine so its been suspended for years now I am trying to get it back but now I can’t because you suspended it for non payment of child support, when technically I shouldn’t be paying child support anymore, well nothing current. The arrears I know I have to pay that. I imagine me and my ex wife will strike some form of deal. Does it matter that I am going to sue her and her entire family for 100M for systematic destruction of my relationship with my youngest daughter which she keeps AWAY from me ILLEGALLY? Three judges ORDER my visitation and she pisses in all their faces! Its ok I have her dead to rights, she puts her contempt in writing, emails, facebook, voice mail, Ecclesiastes 10-8 she bury’s herself, I have not lifted one hand. I WILL get my 100M all the evidence is there, not to mention her going to prison for her BLATANT contempt. In federal court. You will HEAR about this case, it will be everywhere when it’s filed. So, I guess the only question is to ask “ what do I need to do for you to release this suspension “? What do I need to pay? I would also like some form of explanation of WHY I am being charged interest? This is not a loan, I didn’t borrow this money. I can’t even pay what I owe and your charging me interest for 11 years? Kinda messed up.
I FEEL it only fair to let you people know I am an ADVOCATE for fathers rights, I am actually in the works of becoming an entertainer and when that day comes, I will bring about movement upon this country that will make the OWS (Occupy Wall-Street) look like a few people sitting around a camp fire by comparison. Millions of fathers protesting in the streets NATION wide DEMANDING that all this ends. The extortion, the vig, the TIME stolen from being without our children, and when the dust settles and the smoke clears, a 100 TRILLION Dollar law suit upon every single municipal and state authority, never mind the US Federal Government for civil rights violations, I PLAN on making the system so POOR that while its Squeegeeing car windshields on the highways and you get a 1.00? OUR judgment sharks will be there to take their 90%! Not a threat a promise. The day of this (tyranny, oppression, and ILLEGAL usury) will come to an end and everyone that is involved in it will be held accountable to the people and the law. Your getting away with it now but with MILLIONS of people screaming for justice? They will come for you (feds).
I mean no disrespect but your agency simply comes after the innocent, it AVOIDS the true guilty, the fathers that have not spent a single day in their children’s lives, the fathers who have so much money and leave the poor mother in destitution, struggling to take care of the children ALL by her self. No you don’t go after them, to much work right? They are driving their cars, spending their money, pissing in the face of the system, and NOTHING happens to them. This makes your agency HYPOCRITICAL. You could find them, you just don’t bother, and I am sorry that is wrong.
Question? Does my ex wife have the power to say to you “ I no longer wish your enforcement “ “ or to ask you not to suspend my drivers license “ ? You know not for anything but the FATHERS you know are good fathers, spend time with their children, PAY their support when they can, you should be MORE lenient with them and NOT suspend the ONE thing that could possibly BRING money in so they can pay their damn child support. Its MORONIC do to this, but that is how this state runs because you have MORONS creating policy. After I become a celebrity I may run for Gov of this state and by all that is Holy you have NEVER seen a politician like me. IMAGINE if we had ONE of OUR own in power. A regular NI99A who has SUFFERED every injustice there is, knows what its like to be homeless, starving, penniless, abused by the system, just imagine what that person would do if they had the power to do it.
Well very nice chatting with you and I would appreciate answers to my questions. It’s sad the system simply can’t be fair on its own, that it WILL take millions of angry pissed off fathers to bring change. Ah it can never be done the easy way.
Respectfully submitted,
Terrence R. Kiellman: VICTIM.
PS: by your OWN by-laws NEVER was I WARNED of you taking my drivers license. Not once. But that is ok too right? Never was I given anything in writing, given the opportunity to challenge, No time frame allotted to me, nothing. You guys don’t even pay attention to your own laws. WHAT will you say when the MEDIA is crawling so far up your butts because millions of fathers are screaming in the streets about the injustice done to them by YOU the PRIVATE storm troopers of women, and then they begin to REALLY investigate you, audits, senate hearings, the NYS Attorney Generals Office? Well? Funny thing about the AGO they never find what they went to find always the really good hidden crap. Just by this EVIDENCE alone my drivers license should not be suspended because you never WARNED me about it, and let me say something, I don’t need to be warned to pay my child support, threatened, I would DO it if I could! Because it’s the law! If you sent me a warning about my drivers license? I would have RESPONDED immediately. I am not hiding. WHERE is MY due process?
Before any administrative enforcement action is taken, a notice will be sent to the noncustodial parent that explains the process, provides a time limit frame and instructions to comply with or challenge the action, and explains the consequences of failure to comply with the payment instruction. Several enforcement actions may occur at the same time based on the amount of past-due child support or the length of time that past-due payments have been accruing.